Saturday, Dec. 18th, 2010

Well, hellooooo. . .   (doesn’t even remotely sound like Mrs. Doubtfire in print.)

I’m on the first day of my 2 week Christmas break.  Can you spell relief?  I spell it:  r-e-d w-i-n-e and B-a-i-l-e-y-‘s.  Oh yes, every day.  Ha,ha,ha,ha. . .

I’m feeling very proud of myself — I’ve got nearly all my shopping done (just one or two hard to find things still to get) AND I’ve even started wrapping!  I swear to all that is holy I will not spend my Christmas Eve wrapping this year.  I will be drinking eggnog laced with spiced rum and bawling over A Wonderful Life.  I promise myself this.

Well, I’ve done something kind of unconventional and maybe a tad selfish this year.  I’ve decided not to put up a Christmas tree.  Gasp!  Tim and I usually put up a HUGE tree — this has caused untold arguments in past years, but not this year.

One of my reasons for not putting up a tree this year is the fact that neither of us was going to be around much to see and enjoy it.  And, it takes about 6 hours to decorate and I could barely find the time to breathe lately, let alone decorate a tree.  Then there was the fact that we weren’t entertaining AT ALL this season, so why have a tree if no one else would see it?  Then, there’s the fact that my grandkids would not be coming over to see it, either (we’re going to their house on Christmas Day)  and that pretty much sealed the deal.

I miss the sparkly lights, the ornaments that I’ve spent 31 years collecting and the lovely, fresh smell of newly cut pine, but there is next year to look forward to, and really, Christmas is about the feelings and memories we hold in our hearts, it’s not about things — which is all a tree really is in the end.

I’ve dug out the precious hand-made ornaments and cards my son made — these are the most important to me — and I’ve got them on display — so I’m happy in my little moments of wistful remembrance.  I can indulge myself with a few tears, smile and move on.  That’s what life, love and memories is all about.  Reliving, but not forgetting to live in the moment.

I feel, this year, that I’ve moved into a different phase in my Christmas-life.  Some switch has been thrown and I find myself less stressed than I’ve ever been.  I love Christmas, really love all that it stands for, but in the past I’ve always allowed myself to get bogged down with expectations.  Usually self-created.

This year none of that matters.  I made a list of all the baking I intended to do, went out and bought all the ingredients, and then, because I realized that I was essentially going to be doing it for nothing put it all away.  No hard feelings.  I’ll enjoy other people’s baking.  And I won’t have tons of it sitting around my kitchen enticing me to get fat.

Then, there’s the tree decision.

Also, I gave up all the angst that seems to come from trying to squeeze everyone in for a visit.  The guilt that follows if you think you’ve forgotten someone, or not tried hard enough to work a schedule that accommodates everyone else’s.  We’ll see people when we see them.  If it’s not during Christmas it will be in the New Year.  We’ll plan lovely, leisurely evenings where we can actually pay full attention to the details we’ve missed.

And I continue to practice my daily gratefulness ritual.  Each day, especially over these past couple of difficult weeks, I’ve reminded myself of all that I have to be grateful for.  And, this, more than anything else is what I believe in my heart has contributed to this new sense of calm with which I approach this holiday season.

Maybe being less frenetic, less frazzled makes me less interesting, but I sure like this me a lot more than the one who worried over every little detail to the point of misery.

Christmas is about love — I get it.

Wishing everyone lots of love for the holidays.  Now go be happy and make merry!

Some of the things for which I am always grateful:

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5 Comments

  1. Cindy said,

    December 18, 2010 at 9:25 pm

    You’re spot-on about the less-stress business, I’m 100% with you.
    Happy holidays to you, enjoy the wine and Bailey’s 🙂

    • klrs09 said,

      December 20, 2010 at 8:48 am

      Thanks Cindy! Hope your holidays are wonderful — can just imagine the food and wine at your table!

  2. souldipper said,

    December 18, 2010 at 11:58 pm

    Funny how hard it is to make these sound and delicious changes without having bouts of guilt and questioning.

    Enjoy all your freedom. Living by myself, I didn’t even bother putting out my 3 foot angel who serves as a night light all the rest of the year. I decided she didn’t need to be out in the cold, damp, winter air.

    Instead? I walked to my neighbours with a very nice card thanking them for their dazzling display of delightful Christmas lights.

    Enjoy – and no regrets allowed! 🙂

    • klrs09 said,

      December 20, 2010 at 8:50 am

      That’s awesome Amy! One of the things I’ve got planned is to go for a walk and admire other people’s Christmas lights — we didn’t put any up this year — first time for that. too.

  3. granny1947 said,

    December 28, 2010 at 12:58 am

    Good Morning Kathy…what a sensible lady you are. We went to my DIL for Xmas this year…I helped with the cooking but there was no stress. I,too, did not do any decorations or a Xmas tree this year…no grandkids no point. I was still wrapping presents on xmas MORNING but that is par for the course with me….some things just don’t change.
    Have a wonderful and peaceful festive season and come back renewed in the new year!


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