Life and the Concept of Clutter

Sounds like I’m writing a philosophical thesis, doesn’t it?  But, I’m not.  It’s just a few thoughts on a subject that bugs me — and millions of others, I suppose — the dreaded ‘c’ word, clutter.

My husband and I have fought many battles over what I call clutter and he calls history. It’s a collection of stuff that we’ve accumulated over our 35 years together.  Some of it’s good stuff, most of it is not.  There’s a lot of stuff we inherited from his parents and that is a particularly touchy area.  There is all the stuff of Landon’s, our son, that I’ve kept.  Our home is packed with bits and pieces of holidays, photographs, art (the kind we could afford), old toys, china teacups, pottery, glass, miniatures, cigar and cigarette cases, rocks, kitsch, junk.

Ah, and there it is: junk.  That’s what usually causes the fight.  (And just so I’m clear about this — no, Tim and I did not have a fight about our ‘junk’ — I woke up this morning thinking about clutter and what it means to each of us.)

Tim’s idea is that our clutter is a form of history.  And I’m beginning to see his side.  My idea is that it is a lot of useless stuff that needs to be gone through and gotten rid of in case we die in a fiery car wreck and our son gets stuck with the onerous job of dealing with it all.  I’ve tried pointing this out to Tim numerous times, because it is what he and his brothers had to do after their parents died (not in a fiery car wreck, though).  He says that although it was tough he was glad they did it.  It brought back a lot of memories of their lives as boys with their parents.

Landon won’t have that because he is an only child, and so, I guess, my reasoning is to protect him from the loneliness of such a task.  But, who knows?  Perhaps he would include his children and share with them some of the memories he had of growing up with us.  It’s impossible to know.

In thinking about my need to clean and purge I’ve come to the realization that it was born from the influence of magazines and television shows.  I love to pick up home decor magazines and leaf through them oohing and aahing over the gorgeous rooms and sparkling bare countertops.  I eye photos of polished wooden tables bare except for lavish bouquets of designer blossoms, and bedrooms with vast expanses of floors bare of anything save  hand-woven, rough-spun cotton throw rugs and I swoon with desire.

I read about ideas for taking treasured mementos and turning them into space-saving crafts — like making a collage of family photos on a wooden tea-tray, or decoupaging your children’s art onto a lamp base, or making mobiles out of old silver place settings handed down from Grandma or old Aunt Dottie.  These are fabulous ideas, and I tell myself that they would work, but then, I mention them to Tim and he gets a horrified look in his eyes.  You want to destroy our pictures?  And then, I get to thinking:  what happens if the project doesn’t turn out as nice as it should.  (This happens, trust me.)  Tim’s suggestion is to take the pictures, make copies and use them.  So, I’m then left with the prospect of still having the original photo clutter and a nice tea-tray that I won’t use, or having the original photo clutter and a tea-tray that gets shunted into a closet somewhere.

Which leads to my next big fear about clutter:  that we become hoarders.

I watch the television show, Hoarders.  It scares the bejeezus out of me.  It’s disturbing to see how out of control people can become when it comes to their stuff.  Could that happen to us, I wonder.  Already our basement is like a maze (even without the couple dozen boxes of my son’s family belongings, stored while they wait to move into their new home).  We have shelving units crammed to the rafters with junk, piles of wood and coffee cans filled with nails, screws, bits of this and bits of that.  Tim has at least a dozen different tool boxes and bags, none of which are full.  His workbench is a complete disarray of everything that just gets plunked there.

In the upstairs, just off our living room, is a closet where I keep my craft projects.  A couple of years ago I went through it and got rid of a bunch of stuff — but it is still crammed with projects I haven’t touched in years.  Beading, knitting, embroidery, calligraphy, painting, weaving, sewing, candle making — it’s all there in the dark, hidden beneath a dozen or so of our unworn coats.  Every year I say I’m going to get rid of those coats, but every year I hang them back up thinking there might be a need for them.  I do this with a heavy heart, knowing that there are plenty of people in our province who could use a nice warm, though slightly dated, coat come winter.  Still, I place them back on the hangers and close the closet door.  Out of sight. . .

. . .but not out of mind.  No, never out of mind.

Getting back to my slowly changing opinion about whether our stuff is history or junk.  I get where Tim is coming from.  Having a houseful of clutter is like having a houseful of interesting.  Those rooms that I so adore, the ones devoid of clutter?  Those would be boring after a while.  Especially to children.  With nothing to look at, touch or play with in such rooms, why would children even want to be in them.  Our rooms, though filled with clutter, and completely lacking any sense of design or decorating taste, are interesting.  When my grandkids come they always find something to ask about or to play with.  And Tim and I both enjoy sharing little stories with them about whatever it is they hold in their hands.

And, when we have visitors, people are always intrigued by some ‘thing’ we’ve got hanging around or sitting on a shelf.  It often amazes me what people notice, but I’m always happy to share a story with them.

And, so, that is why when I woke up this morning thinking with despair about having to dust my kitchen wall unit and the chore that it would be because there is so much junk in and on it, I remembered Tim holding Timothy up to the cupboard and taking out a small, painted metal horse that was part of a game he had when he was a little boy.  And I remembered the look of delight on Timothy’s face as Tim placed it in his hand, and how he listened so carefully while Tim explained how he used to play with it.

Someday, all of these things that have been a part of lives — the trivial, everyday bits and pieces — will be tiny reminders of who we were and that we were.  They are, in a sense, part of our history.

Still the question remains:   How do I achieve balance between history and clutter?  I’m going to leave it for a while; think about it while I dust and hold in my hands some of the past 35 years of my life.


Thursday, June 3rd

I suppose I should just call this Ramblings instead of Daily Ramblings, because that’s really what it is, and, it’s never daily.

I’m supposed to be getting my crap ready for the big Bon Accord town-wide garage sale this Saturday.  I did look through a bunch of the boxes my husband dragged up from the basement and wound up rescuing a bunch of kids books.  They were all Landon’s and I refuse to let them go.  I read those books to him when he was just  little red-headed boy.  I remember how he enjoyed being read to, how he enjoyed hearing the same story over and over again.  Maybe my grandchildren will enjoy hearing them as much as he did.  So, those books, they’re staying here with me.  Forever.

or at least until senility sets in.

When I look at all those boxes strewn throughout my house I can’t help asking:  Where in hell did all this shit come from?  And why is it that I have so much to get rid of, and yet my house is still crammed with crap?  What kind of lunatic am I?  Maybe we’re candidates for one of those television shows where they help ‘hoarders’ de-clutter their homes.

For instance — I’m getting rid of travel mugs, but when I open up my storage cupboard, guess what’s in there?  About a dozen more travel mugs!  Seriously, all we need is one each!  And yet. . .

. . .we have six each.  And the really crazy part?  We only use one — the same one, every day, because as you well know, we develop favorites when it comes to the things we use.  So, I guess I’m going to add some more travel mugs to the garage sale.  Somebody else’s cupboard can runneth over with the damn things!

Then, there are the wicker baskets.  About ten or fifteen or twenty years ago I went on a wicker binge.  If I saw a basket I bought it.  Got to the point I had nowhere to put them.  They lined the tops of cupboards, they filled cupboards, they held newspapers, magazines, wool, picnic supplies, toilet paper, towels, socks, soap and candles.  They held everything.  And then one day I got sick of having all these baskets to move any time I needed to vacuum or dust (plus the baskets themselves needed dusting, and I hate to dust so they never did get dusted).  So, other than a treasured few (and the really expensive ones) they all got relegated to the basement.  I’ve given some away, taken some to the Sally Ann, and held on to a few others for some reason I can no longer recall.  These are now garage sale fodder.  They’re nice baskets, really.  And, they’ll be a good price.  I’m sure someone will have a good use for them.  If not, they’ll make good kindling.

My grand-kids, Hailey and Timothy, are coming to help me with the garage sale.  They’re 5 and 3.  I can hardly wait.  Hailey is not going to want to get rid of anything.  Already she’s been asking me if there are any toys she can have!

Whenever there is a lull in traffic (nudge, nudge, wink, wink) I’m going to get them helping me in the garden.  They both love being in the garden, though they tend to be more fa

scinated by th

e bugs they disturb than by the weeds that need pulling.  “Gramma, Gramma!  You’ve GOT to come see this one!”  Followed by a screech and a giggle.  It’s pure delight.  I’ve got some seeds for them to plant, so we’ll do that, too.

Garage sale, grand-kids and garden — it’s gonna be a great weekend!